By Xxavier Tallow
This witty and inventive book is designed specifically for women burning with the desire to reconnect with their mates both emotionally and sexually. It encompasses practical, down-to-earth advice that unfolds with the audacity that only anecdotes derived from a topless bar can achieve. Being a wife means more than saying "I do" --- it is a continuously evolving role that requires planning and perseverance, pliancy and playfulness.
Using her gentleman's club exploits as the backdrop, Xxavier fills the text with strategies for women to investigate as they try to avoid the common mistakes that contribute to the ever-increasing divorce rate. Whether discussing a seductive scent, order in the bedroom, effective communication, or how to keep things hot in the kitchen for your man, she explores each theme with clarity and candor. The words "V.I.P. Treatment" will take on new meaning in the psyche of women everywhere and leave many husbands smiling for years to come.
I snagged this book as a freebie on Amazon (love those freebies). Normally, I wouldn’t put much stock into a book written by a former exotic dancer. I am not the type of reader who tortures themselves by finishing a book they’re just not enjoying, so I thought, if I don’t like it, I won’t finish it. But I’m surprised to say, there were actually some nuggets of useful information in here.
Xxavier (which I’m assuming is a pen name) is a former exotic dancer, a woman who men paid to spend time with them. She took things she had learned in those years of working the V.I.P room, and applies them in ways that you can better your relationship with your man. Now, I’ll state from the start, it’s not what I was expecting. Coming from the profession the author did (perhaps feeding into the stereotype) I expected it to be filled with ideas on types of lingerie, how to perform dances, all sorts of other ‘bedroom’ ideas. Granted, there are some in the book, but, overall it leans more toward simple ideas to enhance your femininity, self esteem, and practical improvements to every day life. Which thus draws your mans attention back to you. As an example, she explains the importance of scent. She tells a quick story of a client who loved a particular perfume, and every time he happened to catch a whiff of it somewhere, he always thought of a particular woman. She then goes into how, or I should say, why not use that approach with your husband. So that every time he might be around a similar scent of perfume, he automatically thinks of you.
She also presses on the importance of making time for yourself, that taking that time to say, paint your nails, not only makes you feel better but reminds your husband of that sexy woman he met and fell in love with. You know, before we had kids and put them and our family ahead of ourselves. I can say I’ve fallen victim to that countless times – throwing on a hoodie and pulling my hair into a ponytail, because I think my time would be better spent on X responsibility, instead of using fifteen minutes on myself to do something with the mop on my head. The essence of several of the chapters is, by making that extra time for ourselves (which we deserve), we improve our self esteem, which can stir up the passion in you and your partner. After I thought about it for a little while, part of it did make sense to me. If my man can have an entire Sunday (pretty much) to himself to watch football, then I can surely have fifteen guilt free minutes to paint my nails. Which I love doing, by the way.
It also touches on aspects of regular family life/time, how to better organize your time and different ways in which you think of the use of your rooms. For example, how you think of the use of your bedroom; that portion turned on a light bulb for me. She explains it that a bedroom can be thought of as a V.I.P room, and not for reasons you might guess. But because a V.I.P room, she says, is where men go to get away from it all, it’s a form of a sanctuary for them, and your bedroom can be thought of with that same approach. A bedroom should be a sanctuary for you and your partner, a place you go to relax, to let the worries of the day go, to spend time together. She goes into a few ideas as to how you can achieve that, but I was pretty surprised at the concept as a whole – because it’s so simple, but makes so much sense.
I won’t go so far as to say that I felt this was an overwhelming source of great information, but after reading it, I did walk away with several things I wanted to try to implement into my life. If I can walk away from a self-help type of book with information and ideas I want to try, I consider that time well spent. Because of that, I would recommend this book to the ladies out there. It’s a quick read, well written, and you’re surely to come out it with an idea or two.
Check it out on Amazon here.